[tbh he wouldn't be above using a toy either--he never is, even when he whines about it. he cannnot help that he loves his husband best of all. but he is MORE than happy with the current arrangement and barnacles onto Lan Wangji as they stand to make their way to the bed. he is pliant and obliging up until they're in bed. once they're settled his hands start wandering in search of knotted muscles all along Lan Wangji's back and thighs and working them loose, releasing any tenseness there]